The Anxiety Paradox

by David Rollert

The Bible, as with so many things, gives us a framework to help us manage our anxiety. The anxious person often finds themselves in a particular state of mind, one in which it feels imperative to have control or know ALL the possible outcomes. They cling to control whatever they can because they often feel their world is out of control. They may become hyper-aware of every possible and imagined danger because of past trauma, so they cling to control in order to prevent future trauma.

This is part of the paradox of anxiety. We need to be aware of dangers, and we also need to exercise self-control. Those are biblical principles. But when taken too far, a person becomes crippled by trying to predict, prepare for, and prevent every possible danger. So, how can we be aware of dangers while exercising self-control without becoming anxious wrecks? Let’s look at Philippians 4 to see God’s framework for dealing with anxiety.

First, realize that the only thing you really have control over is yourself. Paul says, “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! 5 Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near” (Phil. 4:4-5). Then in verse 8, he gives a long list of positive things that we must dwell on. This is not optional! Where you focus your attention is a choice. Some default to the negative. But what blessings has God given you?

You may feel like you don’t have any blessings. Let’s work on that. Does God love you so much that He sent Jesus? YES! Does Jesus love you so much that He paid your debt, which you could not pay? YES! Can you now have salvation because of the blood of Christ? YES! Start by choosing to rejoice in those unchanging facts. Now move on to the more “everyday” blessings. You also have control over what actions you take. Choose to take actions that reflect Christ. You cannot control others, so don’t worry about what they might do. Instead, live intentionally every day.

Second, give what you cannot control to God. Paul continues, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God” (Phil. 4:6). Anxiety is worrying about things that aren't happening and might never happen. You cannot control what might happen. In fact, you don’t even know what will happen. But God, in His wisdom, has given us tools to handle whatever situations may come, if we learn to use them! Pray. Take your concerns to Him (and leave them there). Give thanks! Shift your mental energy toward giving thanks and appreciating your blessings.

Finally, seek and imitate Godly mentors. Paul says, “The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you” (Phil. 4:9). Not sure how to focus on the positive or how to give your concerns to God? Seek the guidance of Godly mentors who can demonstrate how it is done and follow their example.