People-pleasing is often confused with showing Christian love. Christian love intentionally puts the needs of others above one’s own selfish desires. Christian love serves a person’s NEED; however, it does not obey every whim or request that someone might make. By contrast, a people-pleaser feels an inability to say “no” to any request. A people-pleaser is...

Lying as a form of kindness is a very old idea. Some believe that if the truth can hurt a person’s feelings or lead to uncomfortable situations, it should be avoided. If telling a “little white lie” means uncomfortable situations are averted and everyone is happy, this is obviously best. This way of thinking comes from the idea that hurt feelings and discomfort are the absolute worst things ever, and must be avoided at any cost. But, does that hold up to scrutiny?